dealing with negative(bad) attitude

There are many cases we will encounter people with bad attitude during our daily lives. So how are we supposed to deal with that? To do it we should try to understand why they behave like that. The reasons could be in bad mood, difficult situation, dilemma or undesired condtion. They may have been treated unfairly as well. Hence, we need to prevent these negative factors from spreading to us. The following are the ways I figure out to deal with people of such attitude:

1. Call it a stop
You are not supposed to be a victim of mental bullying. So you have to let that person know that. You may do something that catch his/her attention. Then telling that person it is no use to behave in this way because such behaviour won't do anyone good.

2.Challeging them with questions
Ask "Are you sure that is really what you want?" or "What is the point of doing that?"You need to gain the control of the whole situation and show that you should be treated fairly before you bring on a threat of taking some antogonistics actions.

3.Telling them what you can do for them. Then asking them to do something easily achievable. So your great attitude and praise to them. By doing so, you hope they will get out of negative feeling and thinking.

All these are the methods I could thought of currently. The most imporatnt thing is not to turn yourself into someone you do not like at all.

In Malaysia

PSS team in Lonza, Slough

I finally returned to my own home in JB after 1.5year in UK. Although this is the 7th day since I returned, I still pushing myself to readapt to the temperature, language and mosquitoes here. Sometimes, I would be missing those colleagues in the company there, those friends that I met in table tennis club and those from Imperial college(I am not student there).

I admit that my own home is definitely more comfortable. But somehow, I have get used to a lot of changes recently. Futhermore, the new house does not progress as I dream of. Sometimes, it is just too difficult to plan what I want to do for my new room. Even while I was choosing furniture, I have to choose from the shop my family placed order from. Otherwise there will be a lot of logistics problem, I may not be able to move over in time. Besides that, I have also heard something was not done as it should be by the person I trusted a lot. So that is life, not everything can be perfect. I wonder how much extra money my brother and sister -in-laws have to put in for this new house.

gain and lost

真的对不起浏览这篇部落格的朋友, 好不容易才能找到机会上网. 让我一次过细数这三个月走访过的地方. 首先是盛产古龙水的科隆

然后是严谨的瑞士, 美丽的少女峰.

接下来是少了烽火的直布罗陀.

漂浮在海上的卡迪CADIZ

SHERRY葡萄酒的故乡JEREZ

寻找热闹的舍维尔SEVILLE

街头艺人逗留的山城GRANADA, 静卧山中的ALHAMBRA皇宫

阳光海岸的MALAGA

这一段路并不是一帆风顺, 我在路上掉了手机, 临时改变留宿地点....

这只有一个教训, 目标清楚, 就不要太在意一路的波折. 真希望我在最后几个月的生活能安稳过去. 不再有太多是非怨言.

Slough Canal Festival

This is another local activity held by local government. Is is a pity that there is not much food stall(maybe discourage people from littering). The whole programme was still quite ok. Ferrets race, exhibitions, old pump motor, live band, martial arts, lion dance, boat trip, funfair and etc were held. They were not all looked very attractive but still gave people some idea about maintaining a clean environment while providing some sort of entertainment.

eligible to vote in UK?

I received a letter last night saying that I need to return the elector information form with updated details of occupier of my current rented property. Then I realise as a citizen of a Commonwealth Country. I have the RIGHT to vote in UK! Sounds unbelievable but that is true. I have missed last election in Malaysia due to the fact that I was not 21 by end of the registration date. But over here I have a chance to vote as I am over 17 and have to right nationality. I do not know whether that is a blessing or not. But frankly speaking I am more concerned with the coming election in Malaysia because that affect me and my family members more. I think if we could not get the right people into the government, the public works in Malaysia will fail. Then this country will become less safe and more diificult for people to lead a good life on. In the end, I may have no home to return to in future. So the opportunity in UK maybe a good lesson for me. Though the reason for me to register myself and my housemate is to avoid being fined £1000.

New Specs

I broke my plastic spectacle frame while I was playing tennis few days ago. A ball just bounced onto my glass and split the frame. Leaving a scar on my eyelid. So I was hunting for a repalcement along the shops in Slough high street. But none of them said they have one. They only told me to get a new sets for everything because a new frame with old lens will not give me a good eye focus. But I think they may just want to make ££. Anyway, I thought I can walk away with something below £70(the cheapest is £35). But all the cheap frame are too round and big. With high power lens, this whole thing may be too heavy for my nose. But then I chose soemthing at £85. The design is just ok on my face and does not block my eye sight. The index of lens became another big issue to me due to my poor eyesight. A standard lens cost me nothing more but quite heavy to me as explained by store keeper. So in the end I bought a frame with 1.74 index at £150 with another frame(same design!!) with normal lens as the storekeeper told me that frame is buy one get one free(I don't need extra one at all). I still have my work time use spec. So basically waste money in UK. I could probably spend a little bit less in Singapore or Malaysia.

Just now, I looked at the price of contact lens and I realised they are in fact cheaper if I only do a eye checkup and new prescription every 2 years. Maybe there is relly a big market all over the world to drive the cost down. So those in UK are in fact same price or slightly cheaper than those in Singapore. But too bad, my eyes just could not have anything stick to them.

Photos from my cell phone

I managed to buy a bluetooth adapter from SimLim Sq last Monday. Therefore, I can transfer quite a number of nice scene from my handphone to my computer. Quite a lot of them are discovered on the way of doing something else. I think there are really beauties hidden around our daily lives.

Flowers in February. Still very cold at that time. Searching for house

Trees near SaraLee. Around February as well. Flowers were blossoming but leaves are yet to grow

Rainbow on a rainy day. Caught it after work. It is very difficult to see full arc of rainbow in Malaysia.

Another spring flowers along lower cippenham lane.

Bus(to Amsterdam) in Eurotunnel train. The train design is very nice but quite dull.